Very recently I have struggled with comparing myself to other women. It was something I thought I had conquered long ago, but something about constantly being around half-dressed college girls changed that. She’s skinnier than me. She’s curvier than me. Her skin is better than mine. The list just continues on.
Well, a few days ago I dyed my hair back to it’s natural color. I have naturally very dark brown hair but I have had it blonde for years. I kind of panicked, “What if I looked better blonde?” I asked myself. As I stared at myself in the mirror, picking out all of the things I didn’t like about myself, God interrupted me; “Danielle,” He said “Why do you think you can make yourself better than I already have?”. I instantly stopped. I’ve spent my entire life trying to change things about myself when the creator of the entire universe already made me the way He wanted to.
Women and men are going off and getting surgeries to make themselves look “better”. They change every aspect of what God made and it’s devastating. Let me just be straight up here; beauty standards are a lie. I have begun to see all of the lies we believe in our culture (I have more coming on this) and beauty is a big one. We think we have a right to call something ugly, to critique ourselves because the media has this unattainable idea of beauty.
People watch porn and get these ideas in their head of how not only themselves, but how their partners should look. It’s so dangerous. Photo’s are so edited that half the time we wouldn’t even recognize the person if we met them in real life. We have been brainwashed. Yes, it is true that some people fit societies molds better than others, but we should be much more worried about what is happening inside of us. A pretty face can’t fix an ugly inside.
Building onto that, some of y’all have believed this lie for so long that you’re bringing other people down. You tear people down to make yourself feel better, then they start believing the lie too. Stop being part of the problem. Speak truth over that lie, break the chain.
I am not telling you to not dye your hair or to not do your makeup. I am not telling you to be unhealthy because your weight doesn’t matter (health is still very important). What I am saying is that we need to break free from this idea that God hasn’t made us perfectly. Honey, He made your nose. He made your thighs. He formed you in His own image. Stop stressing, you’re beautiful. Anyone who disagrees can take that up with the God of the universe, your creator.
P.S. If a you’re with someone who only cares about looks, you should run. Charm is deceitful and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the lord should be praised. Provers 31:30